Love can never be only about sex

We all know someone who has tried to convince us that it is just about sex with a particular human being they are smashing. Honestly, they are trying to convince themselves more than anyone else.

You can not undress a human being more than once and still believe it is just the sex that took you back. One-night stands can be excused, but more than once can't.

When you undress another human being and keep undressing them, there is a level of emotions that get involved. Even after a one-night stand, one of the two will try to look for the other.

Her body might be fire. Her smile might be the reason you want to stay. You might want to stare into her big brown eyes as you stroke her, but it can't just be that. You will start feeling things.

It can't be because of his six-pack or that he smells like heaven. You can't allow a man to smash you more than once because his body is bricked, no.

You will feel some type of way when he says he has found someone they like and want to stop the sex arrangement.

Sex is as intimate as things get. When you lay someone, and the sex is good, you want to keep them. You don't want to share them with anyone else. You want them to be yours and yours alone.

This explains why men feel bad when their side dishes get a man and fall in love, which explains why men invest a lot of money to ensure their side dishes are taken care of.

When a married man gets a piece of choockie on the side, they are convinced it is to get the sex they are not getting at home.

Much as this might be true, after a few times, things start to be felt. And it always starts with the man who initially thought it was just a sex thing.

It is not the sex that confuses people. Yes, the choockie is tight and wet. Yes, she knows how to call your name, but the things you feel when you are inside her start the thought of keeping her, making her yours, and soon after, you will fall in love.

It eventually stops being about tearing off each other’s clothes, and it starts to be about the things they say. It starts to be about the peace of mind they give you. You start thinking about their laughter when the person at home starts yelling.

You start missing them when you have a bad day. Soon, they are the only people who want to smile with and talk to after a bad day at work. It becomes emotional. Strings get attached.

No strings attached arrangement always ends up with the strongest attachments. You will go on dates and try to find someone to feel things for, but it will always go back to them. You start comparing everyone to them. And that is how you stay single.

Some people have come to terms with the fact that their side piece will soon find someone and fall in love, but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. It hurts so bad, but pride and ego will help them heal.

So before you allow that no strings attached arrangement, know that the possibility of falling for this person is very high.

Know that the more they hit it, the more you will want to keep them all to yourself. Know that more than once will evoke certain feelings you won't see coming. Know that it definitely gets emotional.

Till next time, there are always strings attached.