Your marriage could be falling apart because it is sexless. Regardless of how you feel about your spouse or how angry you are at them, make sure that you are having sex. Sex has a way of glueing things that are falling apart.
The moment you start using sex as punishment, that marriage starts cracking. Sex shall be had even when you are angry that he didn't call you during the day. You should give him some, just to show him what he will be missing next time he doesn't check on you.
There is a reason why they say two become one in marriage. They don't mean that your family problems merge. They mean that as and when you can, make contact and make love.
Women resort to starving their men as punishment for the most trivial of things and when they look for it elsewhere, they start crying. A woman riding a man in the heat of an argument is very therapeutic. It holds the chaos at bay and allows peace to prevail.
Ever kissed your person in the heat of an argument? How did it end? Did he place his hand on your left nipple and carry you to a more comfortable space to heal the pain? Wasn't your body more excited about this type of love? Why aren't you using all that anger to ride him?
Who invented a sex timetable in marriage? Who wakes up and says “We shall have sex only twice a week on Wednesday and Saturday?” what type of madness is that? Sex shall be hard when the horn kicks in around your person