My sister, don't plan for sex, just have it. You will thank me later

One of my friends once told me that she had a big crush on a man. This man she said had everything she has always fantasised about having in bed.

She intimated that this man's body melts her heart. I walked up to the man and repeated all the things she has told me. And the man simply told me that if she really felt that way, she should ask and it will be done.

My friend was so mad at me because I had told this man her 'secret.' I did not understand. You want to eat something, it wants to be eaten, but you keep away because you can't bring yourself to say the words?

I have learnt that there is nothing men find sexier than a woman who knows what they want, and they go after it maturely.

Men want a woman who will admire them and walk up to them and tell them. Tell him exactly what you want to do with their body.

Speak up with confidence. And let him know that you want to lay him. And please make sure you are specific, especially if all you want is their body and not their heart. Men know how to keep in check if you spell it out for them from the word go.

I once walked up to a man and told him I wanted to lay him because a friend had told me he was a monster in bed. Yes, mature women talk about these things.

The next time I met that man, we both knew what we wanted to do to each other. Long story short, there was a lot of eating and being eaten. Sometimes it is about sexual healing.

Don't be shy when all you want is to lay with a particular man. Tell them, and you will be surprised by how they have always felt about you.

But remember not to go psycho when they reject you. Sometimes you want to eat, and the food simply doesn't belong to you, or you can't afford you.

Before you start asking me what if you end up falling in love with the man, remember I am a sex therapist and not a heart surgeon.

Allow yourself to get out of that comfort zone, and you will be surprised how your body will receive it.

Till next time, remember any time is tea time. Stop planning for sex and just have it.

Let's get the sheets wet.

MISS D is a sex therapist.