So why do more guys approach the girl in a relationship?

Do not date them both and see what happens.

By Gore Ruvimbo

Dear ladies,

I know I usually seem like I only care about the boy child but trust me I do care. Today I just want to share with you a little knowledge from my observation on life.

So, have you ever noticed that when you are single you are really single and no one seems to notice you (no one you fancy that is)? The moment you let someone in it seems like a swam of men has noticed a unique flower with the sweetest nectar.

It can be confusing, right? Some people call this the "blooming era," but I think it's more like a "distractive era." These men seem like your type and they do everything right.

When you're in a relationship, you're not actively trying to attract attention. So why do more guys start approaching you?

It's a strange thing to think about. So, what makes the numbers rise when there is no advertisement?

However, the harsh reality of the situation is it is not clear who the distraction is, the current man or the ones approaching.

For spiritual people like me, the current guy could be the devil in sheep’s clothing and will block your way to the other man, or the many men are there to destroy a love story in the making.

But what is a girl to do in this situation? To begin with, kakana as the Baganda put it. Calm down queen, you are certainly not the only gorgeous woman on this earth.

Knowing this can help you realise your own worth and recognise when someone truly cares about you.

The moment you tell yourself this it helps you understand that there is something unique and it can only be noticed by someone who truly wants you in their life hence easy to detect the true one.

But it's not always the one solution-fits-all all situation. Some people have the ability to see the good in people so the wrong guy can see your goodness but that doesn’t make him your knight in shining armour.

Girl, you are the price, hence guide your heart jealously. Not everyone that goes out of his way to make you smile is the one.

Some people just have excess resources others actually have a budget for that so do not think yourself loved just because of gestures. No matter what he does keep focus on whether he is the one or not.

Lastly for the day, “do not date them both and see what happens.”

Darling that’s a giant step to distraction. If one man can confuse you what about two? One step at a time but do not take long lest you lose the moon whilst gaining the stars.

Take care of yourselves, ladies. You deserve the best.

Yours

Ssenga of the moment