No matter how naive you are, no matter how the process was, do not mistake sex for love. It is 2023 some things should be very clear but they are not. Just because someone is stroking you right, it doesn’t mean they love you.
Sexual attraction is real. If the first thought about a person is what’s in their pants or knickers, love has nothing to do with them. If hard and wet are the only things you talk about, forget love.
And yes a person can get hard at the thought of you, so hard he could break wood with his machine gun and it would still have nothing to do with his heart and everything with how you sit on it.
A woman can get wet, even squirt and all she is thinking about is how you stroke her meow. Some women don’t even need foreplay from you, they are ready for you the moment you say hello.
But does your person know that sex is the reason you want to see her every day? Does she know that if her brain was being sold it would never get off the market even if black market?
Does he know that you would never pass a business idea by him because you think his brain is only of good use to you when it is thinking about sex? Does he know that you have kissed him sometimes just to shut him up?
Terms and conditions apply even in sex and love. If you know that you love just sex about this human being, say it so as to manage expectations. People will keep referring to you as their ex because the terms were not clear.
If it is a business transaction and you pay every time you meet, make it clear. Some women think you give them money every time you have sex out of love. They don’t know that in your head you are paying for services rendered. Make it clear.
That man doesn’t know that you are only quick to reply to his messages and sweet in your horn week because you need to let some water out. Feelings get mixed and you get mixed in the end.
The only way to manage drama in these relationships sometimes is to make sure the terms and conditions are very clear. Let her know that if it wasn’t for how tight her walls grab your machine gun, you would have walked away at hello.
Stop wondering why they don’t call you after a good steamy session. They have no reason to. They will call you again when they need to get over a hard week with a good sex session. They will call you when they need someone to lay. Manage your expectations and hang in there.
Love is when they want to dig deep into your soul and know exactly who you are. When love knocks, sex will be a supplement. The heart will know.
Till next time, stay woke. Terms and conditions apply.