Public display of affection may just be what your relationship needs

Public displays of affection(PDA) are acts of physical intimacy in the view of others. What is an acceptable display of affection varies with respect to culture and context? Some organizations have rules limiting or prohibiting public displays of affection. Wikipedia  It includes everything from kissing and cuddling to holding hands or exchanging light touches.

In Uganda, we may not have much to go around with culturally(physically) but even the simple ones carry lots of water. Europeans and Americans kiss on the street with no care in the world, whether the relationship ends today or tomorrow, I will enjoy this time and feelings I have for you in the now and I don't care if all see it.. they say with their actions(PDA).

While in Africa, many couples only kiss in public on their wedding day when the priest says "you may now kiss the bride" sadly some couples even take it off program its that bad. Most whites, on the other hand, are free with love, he feels like kissing you at a restaurant, before and after leaving the house, holding hands while in the street, long hugs. This I trust, you cannot tell me the only urge you have to kiss me is when we are behind closed doors thus always resulting in sex. NO

But before we call it white people stuff, we can be  blackish like putting your spouse as your wallpaper, your WhatsApp status once in a while just to make the other feel loved.(even though not physical touching) A facebook friend (never met him in person), I think his name is Stanley always posts the girlfriend's photos and their outings. They have these 'his and hers' outfits(cute) and I think its a better endearment than I will always love you baby in bed (always behind closed doors in the biological act of sex ). Much as the other person may cheat, at least for that one day, the time you were together he/she made you feel like the only girl/guy in the world.

While many people wouldn't feel comfortable making out in the middle of the street, most people appreciate some sort of light physical contact from their love interest. Ultimately what it comes down to is that, as humans, we do have a need for physical interaction even when we are not having sex.

I think that usually, women seem like they need it more, but both sexes need it, women give off this impression maybe because they are more vocal about this need. But everyone needs it on some level. Sometimes the person who is more affectionate or insecure needs it more, and that goes across the board for men and women. It is said, guys need [PDA] more at the beginning of the relationship and women need it more through the duration of the relationship.

Courtship involves someone who acts as the pursuer and another as the pursued. So how a person initiates or reacts to PDA depends more on those "particular roles" than any outside roles they may have in a traditional gendered society. If you're the pursuer ... you're probably gonna look for those indications upfront, Whereas, if you were the pursued, you wouldn't necessarily need [PDA] at the beginning, but you'll definitely need it later on. Ladies need it to be continuous as a sign the love and desire are still real as the first days.

The day he posted my photo on his Facebook page and even made me the profile picture is the day I realized he was really serious about me, that he loved me. We had talked of kwanjula and a church wedding to take place in 10 months(long right), but even then I wasn't sure until he did that.

'From that day I also started using him as my screen saver and once in a while posted him on Facebook. Our love improved, then I knew we were serious, I also quit flirting with other guys. We became more free with each other and our love blossomed because of it,' says Sarah 28 smiling ear to ear like a teenager in love. She went on to say that each time she posted him, he would not only come home early but they would have a wild and long night playing mummy and daddy.

Most times if one cant do any PDA its because they are either shy or not in love/not sure about their partner. The other day I was watching the Steve Harvey show and this guy comes up complaining about the girlfriend who never posts him on any of her social media accounts. Yet he did all the time. Her response was she wasn't yet sure of him. The very thing he did to the ex, he never posted her because he wasn't sure of her, in fact, he wasn't in love with her.

PDA for some people is seen as a pretentious act, she/he can still cheat a player is a player, while others think  we are not married anything can happen and we break up why show off to the world, most ladies will say he hasn't put a ring on it... am not pushing away potential men for him, I still have others on the side why post her like she is the only one.

I think we all want to be loved without fear, men may pretend but they also want to be loved without measure and publically if it came down to it. We all want to have that assurance that someone loves us not only in private but in public too. Sometimes its as easy as knowing all his coworkers know about you, being invited to her company get-together, holding your hand as you walk, picking dirt from her hair, lovingly straightening her lipstick, cleaning his beard at the dining table when food gets stuck there, patting him on the back when he chokes on something. The small things that mean the world to the one you love

 

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