The Christmas holiday season is actually a great time for those who see the magic in it, and try to understand the lessons it teaches us. Since the stats show that people aren’t thinking about the Christmas spirit nearly enough, we’ve decided to put forward a list of 10 things that Christmas teaches us about relationships, and that are relevant all year round.
Happiness is contagious
Don’t you always notice a change in the air around the end of November or the start of December? Yes, that’s the festive buzz permeating the air around you and slowly penetrating your thoughts.
However bad your morning has been, the sight of stores all decked up in colorful trees and bright wreaths immediately brings a certain cheer to your day.
And that contagiousness is the most evident in a relationship – when you’re in a crappy mood all the time, it’s highly likely that the environment in your relationship is largely negative.
Being upbeat and cheerful changes the atmosphere completely, and is more conducive to a loving, healthy relationship.
When you’re happy by yourself, it’s extremely hard for your partner to stay grouchy for long!
Saying ‘thanks’ is always good
The concept of gratitude is something that is heavily stressed upon during the final months of the year, starting with Thanksgiving and going on throughout Christmas.
During this season, we are surrounded by reminders of how we should be thankful for all the blessings we have in our life.
Experts suggest that gratitude plays a huge role in relationships too, increasing relationship satisfaction for men and women.
So take a leaf out of holiday gratitude lessons and include them in your life too. Being appreciative of your partner increases positive feelings for both of you!
Faith is a powerful thing
Several aspects of holidays like Christmas are based on basic faith. You believe that certain events occurred in the past, and you trust that doing things a certain way will result in specific consequences.
These apply to most holidays and festivals around the world, and are just as applicable to relationships too.
Regardless of how things may seem temporarily, trusting that they’ll work out in the long run is crucial to the longevity of any relationship.

Too many marriages break up simply because the couple doesn’t put in the work required and run at the first sign of trouble.
Having faith in each other and trusting that you can work your way through the troubled spots ensures a better chance for the relationship to last.
Giving warms our hearts more than taking
A keyword you often hear during the Christmas holiday is ‘giving.’ Even the basic story of the nativity has the three wise kings bearing gifts on their visit.
This is a season to let go of selfishness and the constant focus on ‘me, my, and mine.’
In relationships, it’s easy for people to veer towards extremes – either becoming a martyr and sacrificing everything for the other or becoming selfish to the point of overriding the other’s needs.

Neither of these situations is healthy, and it’s important to find middle ground.
However, when in doubt, it’s better to give, and see the other person’s face light up. And if you’re on the receiving end, don’t forget what we said about gratitude!
Don’t leave things to the last minute
With the commercialization of Christmas celebrations, malls and businesses start preparing well in advance.
Yet, the crazy, last-minute rush at the shops is still a reality, and as anyone who’s witnessed it will attest – it’s like being in a madhouse!
Timing is crucial at Christmas, whether it’s shopping, sending out invitations, ensuring others get their gifts in time or putting the kids to bed before Santa arrives!
But besides Christmas, timing, and/or time, is extremely important in relationships as well. Don’t let resentments simmer for so long that they finally explode; talk it out early on, so you can resolve things much more calmly.
Don’t be lazy and let things pile up, forcing your partner to manage them, while paying late fees!
And most importantly, never take anything for granted; tell your partner you love them – today. You never know what’s going to happen tomorrow, so make the most of the here and the now.
Unrealistic expectations spell disaster
One reason that experts attribute towards the high rate of breakups during Christmas and Valentine’s Day is the burden of unmet expectations.
Men, especially, claim to go through a period of extreme stress, simply deciding what to get their partners!

In any situation, having unrealistic expectations is a recipe for disaster, but never more so than in a relationship.
We can’t control circumstances or a person’s behavior, so having expectations regarding either of these can only result in feeling disillusioned while the other person feels like whatever they do is not enough.
A little mystery adds a lot of fun
Remember how much fun it was as a child to open up all those brightly wrapped presents? Yes, we agree, it’s still fun!!
Christmas and relationships – both thrive on a certain element of mystery, and it adds a wonderful dimension to our lives.
When you’ve been together for a while, the initial passion is sure to wear off, and that’s when some mystery can keep that spark alive.
While it’s unrealistic to expect a relationship to be in a constant state of passionate fire, it is important to have some scope for excitement. So be generous with your presents, but be sure to leave some gifts under wraps!
Being nice does pay off
Come Christmastime, and most kids worry if they’re on Santa’s naughty or nice list, since that directly translates into their loot on Christmas morning! But as adults, being nice isn’t considered all that important.
In fact, there’s even a quote by George Carlin that goes, “The main reason Santa is so jolly is because he knows where all the bad girls live”!
While we admit that being naughty has its… ahem… benefits in a relationship, there’s something to be said about being nice too.
Familiarity breeds contempt, and many long term couples find themselves being snappy at each other all the time.
Making an effort to be nice to each other every day gives an air of congeniality and improves the quality of the relationship.
Sometimes a fresh start is all you need
Around the holiday season, you’ll find people doing a good deal of decluttering and organizing, so that they can make some sense of what decorations from last year can be reused this time round!
Old clothes are donated, new ones bought and there is a general feeling of purging. And sometimes, that’s exactly what’s needed to refresh a relationship – a good old purge.
Getting rid of past hurts, emotional baggage, and the cobwebs of preconceived notions clears up the air and can feel very therapeutic.
This, of course, results in a great deal of personal satisfaction and mental clarity, and gives both partners a chance to realign their priorities. In short, the couple gets a fresh slate and a brighter start to the New Year.
Life needs magic
Like we said at the beginning, life can be hard, not to mention dull and monotonous at times.
But Christmas makes this time of the year a magical time, and even the greenest Grinch can’t help but feel at least a little bit affected by all the cheer! The same is true of relationships.
When any one partner is facing any kind of crisis regarding their job, finances or health, it is bound to affect the other partner as well.
In such scenarios, it’s essential to believe in miracles and happily ever afters, corny as they sound! After all, what’s life without a little magic?
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