Four proven ways of developing a positive perception

CHARLES NATUHAMYA 

Although everyone experiences problems from time to time, the way in which people respond to their troubles vary greatly. This is what separates winners from whiners. The former base their decisions on positive perceptions, while the latter make moves basing on negative perceptions.

That’s why perception is defined as ‘powers of observation’ or the ability to notice or discern things that escape the notice of most people.

Take an example of two drivers, each of whom gets a flat tire on the way to work.  The first motorist's whole day is ruined.  He mumbles about his rotten luck for hours, spreading blame wherever he can and ends up accomplishing very little at work.  The other driver, however, treats the flat tire as a minor inconvenience.

He has it repaired and quickly moves on, proceeding to have an enjoyable, productive day. In this example, each driver encountered the exact same problem.

So, why did one driver get so upset while the other handled the situation with ease?  What distinguish the two are their different perceptions. So here are sure ways of developing a positive perception;

Always Be Aware of Your Inner Strength. Always be mindful of your own inner strength because you are uniquely great. And the quicker you do this, the faster you will get greater.

You have gotten through thus far because of your inner strength. Be aware of it and feel confident to keep on getting through.

Be 0pen to the Idea that everything happens for a reason

If you doubt this principle, speak to people who, in your view are positive and successful and who also seem to have peace of mind.

Ask them if they believe that everything happens for a reason.  Then, ask those who answer with an enthusiastic "YES" to explain why they feel that way. This will enable you to quickly embrace the same norm which will boost your own perception as well.

Redirect your focus to the many blessings in your life

Are you in reasonably good health? Do you have your eyesight and mobility?  Is there a roof over your head and enough food in the refrigerator?

There are many people who do not enjoy these gifts and who would gladly trade places with you.  So, focus on the many things for which you are grateful no matter how small or obvious they may seem to be.

To reinforce this idea, take the back of an index card and write "Count Your Blessings" or "I have so much to be grateful for."  Place the card where you will frequently see it, such as on your desk, in your car or on the bathroom mirror. This will boost your sense of gratitude hence positively changing your perception.

View every problem as an opportunity for growth

Too often, we see our difficulties as negative experiences which are there to punish us and cause pain.  As you look back at your life, you'll find that many problems and painful situations led to personal growth and improved conditions.  Maybe you lost a job which in turn led you to a better position.

Or a relationship ended but you wound up in a more fulfilling one.  So, develop a strong belief that the "bad" experience is there to help you in some way.  Don't curse your challenge; instead, look for the lessons or opportunities which your problems are showing you. In other words; grow through what you go through.

If you happen to experience something negative, acknowledge it and try and see the positive side because what does not kill you makes you all around stronger.

So pick at least two of the above and meditate upon them daily especially in tough times. Before long, you will climb greater steps on the ladder of success simply because of your new, great perception.

The writer is a statistician and a writer at Success Africa