I recently read an outcry from a man asking what the standard time for sex is. He wanted to know if it a crime to cum in 5 minutes.
His cry was so loud that it was very clear that he thought his woman was going to leave him because he can’t hold it till after she has cum.
So, he decided to come to my inbox and ask what he should do to keep it going longer. He also inquired about how long would be good enough in terms of time.
I felt so bad because I felt like his manhood had been attacked simply because he had lasted a short time.
Sex has got nothing to do with time. And before you start fighting with your keyboard to refute this fact, think about why quickies are the best thing to happen to humanity.
If you have not had a quickie in some random place, try, and you will thank me later. There is no sex sweeter than a quickie, and yet it takes maximum 10 minutes.
Women should stop pretending that they don’t climax during quickies. We do faster than men sometimes.
When a woman has set out to climax, they will do in as short as 5 minutes or even less. Problem is our mind always wanders off to things that don’t matter in that moment.
Stop thinking about what will come after or with the sex. Stop thinking if you are doing great and if you are wiggling your waist good enough. Stop thinking if you are better than all the women he has been with.
Just stop thinking anything but the good sex you are having, and you will not be telling your friends how he lets go so fast because your choochkie is too hot.
And by the way, when we talk sex, we mean the act and not the foreplay. Couples that need foreplay are those that have been together for long. And the reason is simple.
They have been together for a minute and have a lot more to think and talk about. So in between the foreplay, they pause and talk about other things.
But if it is ‘a once in a while’ sex, if it is random sex with an ex (stop rolling your eyes and judging people), if it is with a side dish that you rarely see, foreplay will be about 10 minutes, and the act 10 minutes. That will be about 20 minutes, and you will decide whether you want to take a break or go again.
And to the women that claim he cums so fast, what the hell are you doing when he is focusing on cumming? Get into the game, and those 5 minutes will help you sleep well at night for a week.
Please note, if your man has mastered the art of holding it to last long, he has also mastered the art of switching his mind from the act to something else, like a bank loan.
You don’t want that because sometimes he will have to fake cum just to be done with it especially when you have cum.
And yes, men can fake cum too.
Sex is a two-way street. No one is doing the other a favour. Stop mistreating men because they are focused and therefore cum fast.
But then again, if he cums fast, know that that choochkie is premium.
Till next week let’s focus and get the sheets wet.
MISS D is a sex therapist and counsellor